I hope everyone had a good Thanksgiving. I know it can be a difficult holiday for some. I, personally, have never had trouble with any family gathering. Even in low points in my journey I always found spending time with loved ones re-energising and I just love it. But if you do find any type of gathering saps your energy or makes you feel less than, then know that you are in my thoughts and I hope that you made it through Thanksgiving okay this year. xx
Ours was really good. I won’t bore you with details but it was nice to see everyone again and to catch up and more importantly to eat everything in sight.
Yesterday, I had another appointment. This time I wore my lucky IVF socks and I wrote down all my questions. I just wanted us to get on the same page instead of just sitting there and taking it all in. I’ve also decided that I do not want anymore cervical checks because they suck. So I saw the gel on the table and I was preparing myself to do some serious advocating for myself. Luckily I didn’t have to. It was just a quick blood pressure, fetal heartbeat and tummy measurement check. She said that she felt a head on my top left but let’s keep hoping this little stinker gets his act together.
She’s booked me for an ultrasound next week and if he’s still breech we’ll make an appointment to manually turn him. Woohoo! The socks worked and I didn’t have to fight for an ECV. We talked about how the procedure works, the risks involved and the success rates. I asked all my questions and wrote down all her answers (kinda) and we had a good talk.
I know an ECV isn’t ideal but I’d really like to avoid a scheduled c-section if I can. Or at least say that I’ve tried everything I can. If it doesn’t work and Lucky decides he’s happy where he is then so be it.
Real talk: I worry that I’ll experience some postpartum because I’m not getting the birth that I want. It makes me sad to think about it now. I mean I listen to birth podcasts, I’m on birthtube on fb (it’s great btw if you like birth videos). I read birth without fear blogs. I have fully immersed myself in this world and I’ve just stopped now because they make me sad thinking I may not get the opportunity. It really does feel like infertility again. Like I’m being robbed of something that should be the norm.
That being said, I have the tools to dig myself out of this funk. I have the experience of shifting my mindset and being okay with my new path. I can do it but right now it just hurts.
But I’m doing what I can. I’m looking for planned c-section videos and birth stories and working towards being okay with it. What’s helping the most is that when I think about the day we found out we were having little Lucky every single drop of hurt and shitty feelings about how we got there was gone and it was just pure happiness. So I know for a fact that once we hear his voice and see his face, how he got into our arms won’t matter at all.
Right now I just have to get out of my own way and let life unfold.
I apologise if I sound a bit ungrateful but I’m hoping you can appreciate the feelings I’m feeling.
Today’s been a bit aggravating as well. I had the worst sleep of my life last night. I was just telling (humble bragging to) my friend that I’ve been sleeping really well considering, and last night I was up at 3 and just could not fall back asleep. Surrounded by 3 cats and a husband all happily snoozing. I just wanted to cry. Eventually I dozed off by some miracle only to have my alarm go off after what felt like 3 minutes. Then when I got to work my space heater died and let off a nice big smelly cloud of smoke which prompted the entire maintenance team to run downstairs to find out if the building was on fire. Now I’m sitting at my desk freezing with my winter coat wrapped around my legs (I work in the basement next to a server room so there will be no warmth for me ever).
Also, I’m working on a terrible project and the deadline is next Thursday. Guys, I finished this project last month but I needed help from a third party company that runs the site to fix a few issues before I submit. It’s taken a month… a month for these dudes to help. It’s so frustrating. Look, I don’t mind if you can’t find a solution. But don’t go missing for days at a time and make me run around after you and have to explain myself several times. I just hate it so much. I’m so angry. Luckily my boss is now involved and hopefully we’ll get it sorted by next week. Well we have to. But today is one of the days I would much rather just start maternity leave.
Okay, that’s enough whining out of this sorry sack for one day. I have appointments everyday this week (dentist, orthodontist, acupuncture and chiropractor) which I’m excited about. Hopefully my next update will be a bit less mopey and a bit more happy.
Until next time!!
18 thoughts on “4-ish Weeks to Go”
Sometimes a vent is necessary. I complete understand the third-party situation at work. It’s hard when they don’t need to meet the same deadlines as you and it’s hard when you can’t control it. As for everything else, I say be in the moment. If this is where you need to be, than let those emotions be there. You are human and we all need that time to feel what we need to.
Until then, big hugs.
Thanks!! This made me feel better. I’ve got one part of the work thing sorted but not everything but boss is back from vaca now so we’re going to tackle it together.
I understand the emotions about a c section. I have no fear of vaginal birth and a high pain tolerance and was actually looking forward to the experience but ended up with two c sections. One emergency and one planned. I have been able to make peace with it and am actually quite proud for many reasons. Once baby is here safely I think your emotions about it will lessen (if that’s the route you go) but I am happy to chat with you if you end up having one. I can give you some good mental and physical tips. Xo
Thanks mamajo!! I’ll definitely reach out once I know for sure which way we’re going to go. I’m certainly going to need to hear some words of wisdom 🙂
I will be here!
It’s okay to whine. You deserve to be able to vent and whine just as much as any other pregnant woman (or MORE)!!
I’m sorry things aren’t looking the way you want. Don’t we know that this is how life seems to go!
I have a really good feeling about the acupuncture and ECV should you need it!!
Prayers to you in these last few weeks!!!
Thank you very much for the confidence and prayers! xx
I also prepared completely for a natural birth only to have it change in a week. Honestly, having that time to readjust helped. I have a birth story on my blog. I loved my section in the end. And today my son turns 1. He was absolutely worth it.
Thanks for the link! I’ll check for you birth story. xx
I have no advice, but I just want to say,I honestly think it’s completely okay to be upset that you may not get the birth you’ve dreamed of and desperately want. I don’t think you sound ungrateful at all!
Whatever happens, I’m hoping for a safe delivery. 🙂
Thank you my friend!! ❤
Wow I can’t believe his arrival is just around the corner! Wishing you all the best however you deliver. Go easy on yourself and let yourself have those feelings. It’s hard to not get the birth you want. I hope it works out though!
Thank you! It went really quickly huh. Crazy!
Exciting exciting exciting! Not long now… it’ll be a bit of a rollercoaster until then as you go through the emotions knowing you’re meeting your little one soon! Try to enjoy as much as you can, thinking of you xx
Thank you! Husband and I have to make a little bit of time for each other as well I think.
I was also not super-keen on a c-section but I can vouch for what a positive experience it was once I got over the disappointment. At a certain point all I could think about was the baby coming out healthy and well and I think you’ll get to that point emotionally too (especially on the day). My recovery was pretty fast and my scar is minimal. I know these things depend on your community, but literally no one asks me anymore about my birth (baby is four months) so I think it’s a bit like your high school grades – they are THE MOST IMPORTANT THING EVER at the time and then no one cares about them once your 25+. If you have any “friends” who make you feel guilty about having a c-section then I suggest this is a good time to filter them out of your life. xx
Oh thanks for sharing this!! I’m lucky that everyone around me is pro-whatever gets baby here the safest :).
That’s really great. If you end up with a c-section it really will be ok. Also c-section babies tend to be prettier. 😊