**Trigger Warning ** This is just a quick boring update on Lucky and the renovation but please take care if you feel like this isn’t something you’d like to hear about. ❤
We’re currently 92 days from our due date. I was going to post this on 99 days but… life. I saw on a December babies forum someone was 100 days so I did a quick calculation and realized we were on 100 as well and had a tiny little panic attack because we are nowhere near done with our reno and time is clearly running out.
We’ve been lackadaisical the past few weeks because the deadline seemed far off but now we’re realising that time may not be on our side so when we were just working on weekends we’re going to have to pull some weekday shifts as well. In theory we don’t have much to do so we’ve made a schedule, here’s hoping we can stick to it.
Our house is teeny tiny and old, as I’ve mentioned, and our reno consists of us creating a master bedroom and ensuite bathroom out of a shell of an attic. We installed a dormer up there to increase space but right now the entire room is gutted except for the walls for the bathroom and mini built in closet.
We’ve started the wiring but we need to finish it and have the inspector come check it out. After that it’ll be putting in insulation. Then we have to do the walls and ceiling then fully finish the wiring with the outlets and lights etc. At some point the inspector has to come check again. After that we’ll mud and paint the walls and ceiling and see about trim. Maybe we won’t need it. Then lastly we’ll install the wood floors. While this is happening the plumber has to come and fix a few pipes. Once he’s done we’ll move into the bathroom. I’m not too worried about this since we have a working one downstairs but it would pretty awesome to get it done before my parents come.
When you write it down it seem quick quick but let’s see how it goes. If we can get done by November life will be good. I hope to be of some use during that time.
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Everything that’s been going on is completely different to what I expected. I’ve been extremely lucky to have a very smooth 2nd trimester. Yes there’s heartburn and yes I’m struggling to sleep some nights but the heartburn is something I’ve struggled with all my life it seems and the sleeping is not that bad yet. I find I’ll a bad night every second night and the good nights I’m so exhausted I fall right asleep as my head hits the pillow and that amounts to feeling well rested the next day. I’m told it does get worse though so I’m not resting on my laurels.
I have officially stopped wearing underwire bras. I don’t know why I was suffering for so long. I should have stopped ages ago. My pants still fit but I have a feeling that won’t be for much longer based on my struggle this morning in the bathroom.
I will say that things are getting a bit uncomfortable and I find that I can’t sit in one position for very long. This is making the commute home a little challenging. Right now my car seat is positioned completely straight up but it’s still not the best. I tend to move it back and forth a few times while driving. That coupled with leaning to my left then right every 15 minutes is just how I live now. If anyone has tips on what’s a comfortable position to drive in, please help. Should I be getting an exercise ball for work do you think? My job is quite sedentary so I have to remind myself to go for a walk at least twice a day or it just starts to ache all over and it feels like I’ve been doing crazy ab workouts all day.
As for little Lucky. He seems to be pretty happy in there. I did start to feel what I believe are hiccups and it absolutely is my favourite right now. I can see the kicks from the outside but N has yet to see it. He’s felt a few kicks but Lucky gets shy when you put your hand where he’s kicking. I can’t wait to tell which body part is doing the kicking. Sometimes I do worry if he’s kicking for fun or because he wants me to move because he’s uncomfortable. I think that’s part of why I keep changing positions too. It’s probably silly but I worry if I’m squishing him of it there’s an arm or a leg trapped somewhere.
We haven’t had many appointments with our OB. Going to see her again early October, after which we’ll move to bi-weekly appointments. I’m not sure if there’ll be anymore scans though.
But we’ve seen our doula quite a bit. She teaches a gentle birth class which uses hypnobirthing techniques. We finished that course last week and it was pretty cool. They also have a mobile app with mindfulness, affirmation and hypnosis tracks that we have to listen to. We have to save our favourite ones to use during labour. We’re slowly working our way through the list. Slowly. We listen to the hypnosis at night and I listen to the others during the day when I can. The hypnosis isn’t that easy to get into. I’m too in my head I think. That, and the lady has an Irish accent and she says the word “calm” strangely and it sends N and I into a fit of giggles every time. But we’ll keep trying.
The doula also has bi-weekly prenatal group classes with all of her and her team’s clients. It’s nice to get to interact with other couples and talk about some fears. It’s been going well. I’m glad we chose her.
I am having a bit of trouble. I feel like I know which way I’m going to go but maybe you could weigh and let me know what you think. After talking to the doula a few times, she stated that she didn’t have a good experience at our hospital the one birth she had there. She operates in Rhode Island so doesn’t come to Mass often but when she does she goes to another hospital which she is in love with. We decided to check the other hospital out just because it couldn’t hurt. It was absolutely beautiful! Brand new and the rooms were huuuge. And another bonus was that they had a tub. Something my current hospital doesn’t have but something that I would really love to have access to.
So now I’m torn between the two because they both have pros and cons. Here’s the list of pros and cons.
Hospital 1 (our current hospital):
15 minute drive from home
We love our OB but she only delivers here. But we may not get her anyway because they rotate.
Pretty much everyone we know gave birth at this hospital and have only good things to say about it.
One of the OB’s who I complained about in a previous post is in this rotation and I would hate for her to deliver my child. I don’t want her near me.
The postpartum room is oh so tiny. I know it’s not a big deal but it’s really really small. Barely enough room for partners to sleep in.
It’s so big and pretty and new
They have a tub (Big selling point for me)
The same nurse took us on a tour at both hospitals and she recommended hospital 2. She works at both.
We would need to find a new OB who’s in rotation at this hospital (really don’t want to do this)
It’s a 45 minute drive from home (boo)
Now this is only round 1 of the pros and cons list. The biggest deciding factor would be whether or not the hospital/doctor’s policies are in line with how we want the birth to go. I plan to find out from my current OB at our next appointment. And I’ve just made an appointment with a midwife at hospital 2 for next Thursday to see how she will do things.
I just need to know where they stand on inducing and episiotomies and things of that sort. My next update will be on their responses and I’ll have to decide what are deal breakers.
Right now I’m leaning towards staying with my OB and current hospital because it’s so close to home and I love my OB but that being said I really don’t know how she approaches each birth and she may not have the same thoughts as we do.
Part of me is frustrated that I’ve put myself in this situation. I was content not being presented with choice. It never occurred to me to be open to different hospitals etc. I would be happy if someone told me what to do. I even asked N to choose and he flat out refused. He’s afraid he’ll choose one that we end up hating and that he’ll be blamed. But he’s insistent that we do our due diligence and he’s going along to the appointments to ask questions. So he’s involved but he’s reluctant to make a choice for me which is enough for me right now.
So that’s where we’re at right now. I can’t believe this is going by so quickly. I am still in awe of everything. Not everyday is easy but, as they say, everyday is so worth it.
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I’m so glad you are moving along nicely. We had a similar hospital situation and stayed at our current one. The birth was great and I was so glad our OB did the delivery. The post birth was where I doubted my decision. Because the other hospital is so much newer etc they were able to take so many of the good post partum staff. We had pretty sub par nurses in recovery and they were short staffed so kept forgetting my meds and I started to have to set timers on my phone to remind them. Anyway- just something to look into during your due diligence. Those few days after the birth are pretty important too as you adjust to your new life and recover. Xo
Thanks! So far I’ve only heard good things about both hospitals’ postpartum care as far as things like breastfeeding goes. But everyone mentions that our current hospital’s rooms are so small, it’s hard for people to visit and you end up being claustrophobic and just wanting to go home asap. Which probably isn’t the worst thing.
What was your doula’s bad experience there related to? Doctors, nurses, facilities? It’s a tough decision you have! Our Doula had never been to the hospital we had chosen, but in the end she was impressed compared to what she had heard about it (from a doula’s perspective anyway!). So glad we stuck with it. I hope your visit clears some things up for you!
BTW- are you hoping to breastfeed? Because if you are you could try going to a la leche league support group meeting to meet other mothers in the area to get some first hand opinions about the hospitals you are choosing between! Most of the time there a new moms and moms to be at these meetings. Plus you can talk through anything you may want to ask about breastfeeding ☺️
Oooh, that’s a good idea, thanks! They have a breastfeeding group at our current hospital. I’ll definitely look into it. I’ll see if the 2nd hospital has one too.
She said the hospital was fine but she didn’t like the way the midwife insisted on an episiotomy that she felt wasn’t necessary. So I guess in that regard it could be a point for the current hospital since I’m not seeing a midwife there :).
So I didn’t realise Irish people say “calm” in a strange way? Haha 😉 The gentle birth class sounds really good. I’ve been thinking about going to the hospital that is further from where we live as they also have a tub and in their case are a bit more into natural births by the sounds of things. Plus it’s more likely they are less busy and have partner rooms available for after birth. It’s a hard decision though. A friend of mine wanted a water birth but then at the time decided she wasn’t that comfortable in the tub so changed her mind. Glad to hear everything with little Lucky is going well x
Oh, I hope I didn’t offend you with my careless words. Maybe it’s just her :).
It really is a hard decision especially since we have no way of knowing how anything is going to go. Best of luck with your decision. I hope you blog about it once you make a choice. xx
you didn’t offend me at all, I just found it funny! 🙂 Thanks, I have been thinking about blogging about the different options here xx
Yes please do! 🙂 🙂
So happy tp read all is progressing well for you! Yes time has indeed been very fast paced. I am just 50 days from due date! 😱😱😱 and i still have to hand wash remaining outfits , machine wash crib sheet, quilts and towels and finally iron them all 🙈
Time is FLYING. I dont have much time left to prepare. I say you should also hasten completing all your chores.
Finally, good luck with the hospital decision. I hope all works out well for you guys. 💟💟
Wishing you all the best with whatever you decide! You’re almost there and I can’t believe how quickly it goes!!