Update on Lucky Bean

This has been the longest week of my life but I’m glad it’s over. But yesterday was nothing like I imagined it.

On Monday we had an horrendous PIO ordeal. N had to inject me 3 times. The first time he hit a nerve and the second there was blood. The third was fine but resulted in the worst bruise. He pleaded for me to call the nurse to find out if there’s something we could do. I eventually called on Wednesday and she said we would draw blood to check my progesterone and if it’s high enough we can stop. Of course I would do a gazillion more shots if it meant this would end happily but I’m not going to lie, I definitely dread PIO time now. Both of us do.

Wednesday, I must have cried a million times. My symptoms had all but disappeared and I took a pregnancy test and although the test line popped up immediately it was lighter than the control. N only got home after 9 so I was stuck in my head for most of the evening. When he got home I asked him if he wasn’t afraid that there would be nothing there. He simply said No. There was no reason for him to  be afraid. His only fear was that there would be twins lol. I’ve never met anyone going through infertility more opposed to the idea of twins.

Thursday both of us were up ridiculously early. Thankfully my symptoms came back in full force. I felt very calm. We were just sitting around for a while so we just decided to go in early. Good thing we did because traffic was atrocious and we got there with minutes to spare.

The ultrasound tech A came running out at 10 and said she has been waiting all morning for this. As we walked in with her she said she was so excited to see my name on the OB ultrasound list :). I love that they get so involved. As I was getting ready N was talking to her about recording the scan for family and she said sure but to let her first see what’s going on, just in case. She told me that she would be able to see right away so she wouldn’t leave me in suspense.

As soon as she put the probe in we saw the black circle. She said Awww loook. But I just saw the circle. She said N could go ahead and record and when she adjusted everything came into view perfectly.

I thought I would cry instantly (I’m welling up a bit now) but I think I was in disbelief. Lucky bean wasn’t moving or wiggling and I couldn’t see a heartbeat so I wasn’t breathing. Was A lying to us about everything being perfect?

She said that I was 7 weeks 5 days but this baby wants to be 8 weeks. She said it was the best looking baby she’d seen that day. I’m sure she says that to everyone but it made my day. The more she gushed the more relaxed I felt. She took loads of pics. Showed us the yolk sac which looked like a balloon that our little Pennywise was holding.

Then she showed us the heartbeat. So tiny. So perfect. We couldn’t hear it but there it was. I couldn’t stop smiling.

Everything else was good. No swollen ovaries. No SCH. Just the luckiest bean there ever has been.

Afterwards we met with L. One of our team nurses. I recognized the voice and she said we spoke on the phone before. She just went over all the pictures and answered our few questions. I’m an idiot. I forgot to write down all the questions I had and I just remembered another one. I’m going to have to call again. Anyway, after a longish discussion we were pretty much sent on our way with our pics and a handshake.

No chorus line. No fireworks. But it felt good. Certainly bittersweet like people describe but I think I kept my relationship with everyone very professional so even though I’d been there for almost 2 years I didn’t form any unbreakable bonds with anyone. I was sad that I didn’t see my RE or L my main nurse. I’m going to pop her an email later. She’s been with me since day one. We’ve only seen each other face to face twice but I’d really like to express my eternal gratitude even though she wasn’t my nurse with this successful round.

We also told pretty much everyone. Still missing N’s grandad, his brother on his mom’s side and he’s step dad and his aunts and uncles. But pretty much everyone on my side knows. And I told my boss this morning. He was very happy an excited. I still couldn’t say the words, I just said that our last round of IVF worked. We talked for a bit about symptoms etc etc and he just kept saying “That’s awesome… that’s awesome”.

So that’s where we are now. Oh after work yesterday I called my beloved OB to make and appointment and just as I suspected he doesn’t do prenatal care. They told me I could meet with anyone else at the office (Dr G and two midwives). You’ll remember Dr G from my awful OB post. I made an appointment with one of the midwives but they said that I would meet with all of them eventually because anyone could be there when I give birth… Uh, no thank you.

I have 2 other options for OB offices. One, my friend B recommended had midwives but I don’t like the OB’s. Dr Y was one of them, also from my awful OB post and I don’t want to be stuck with her at go time. My last option seems to be where I’m going to go but they don’t have midwives. I don’t know. I’m going to see what N thinks.

I still can’t believe I’m having this problem, though. Struggling to choose prenatal care… Me… Shitty egg girl.

It’s difficult to describe my feelings now. I feel like there are too many to process all at once. Thankfully I have years of infertility training to help.

Just one day at a time.

Faith Purchases

Hello!
We’re on day 6 and I am Fuh-reaking out. Silently. On the inside.

I think I didn’t want to write before because I didn’t want to jinx anything but I can’t really concentrate on anything today so I thought I would catch you all up.

So my next call was supposed to be on Saturday (day 3) but Friday around 6pm Dr P called himself to find out how I was recovering and to give me a day 2 update.

We still had 12 on day 2. I was extremely relieved. The doctor didn’t sound excited. He said that they ranged from 2 to 6 cell and they were all B’s and C’s, which is great! I was relieved because I figured if we lose half like we usually do on day 3 then at least we’ll still have more than we’ve ever had on day 3. So Friday was yet another good day.

Both of us had to work on Saturday and I was surprisingly okay. I came to terms with my 6 embryos. I started going over plan B’s and just mentally preparing myself for big drop offs. She called around noon and I had to run out of my dungeon office to where there was cellphone reception.

Twelve little guys were still happily growing!! Wow. Both the nurse and I were absolutely giddy. I asked her for the cell counts and grades but I’d forgotten a pen and paper so I wasn’t even really listening to what she was saying but there were some A’s B’s and C’s thrown in.

The rest of the day was a blur of good news sharing and a little work peppered in. I wanted to go out and celebrate but both of us were so tired from work we just climbed into PJ’s and watched 90 day fiance all night until 1am. So Saturday was certainly a good day.

Sunday was a long day. I had wonderful plans to meal prep but then I realized that it’s a 2.5day week and that would be dumb. I thought I would just makes lunches at least but Saturday night I’d forgotten to take the Cabergoline so I took it in the morning and as soon as I wanted to start cooking I was hit with the motion sickness. We rotted away again in front of the tv for the rest of Sunday.

Yesterday was another long day. A long and terrible day. I know that they said they would call on Tuesday to let us know how many were biopsied and frozen but last time on day 5 at around 9am, Dr G called several times and eventually left the message that no one going through this wants to get. So yesterday I was quite a mess. I don’t want anyone to call but I want to know how our embryos are doing. I am going to say that since I didn’t get a call all day that at least they’re not all gone. I think that’s a safe assumption.

I don’t know why I’m big on jinxes (rolls eyes at self) but it is what it is I guess. So I was thinking this weekend that our PGD lab charges $250 per embryo over 8. We’ve never been there before so I’ve always just budgeted for the minimum. And now in a perfect world we may have 4 embryos I didn’t budget for. I would have to transfer extra money to our IVF account for the PGD lab. I can’t remember if they debit the account as soon as my clinic tells them how many samples they’re getting or or if they debit the account when they have the samples in hand. So yesterday I made a big ‘faith purchase’ and transferred the extra money into the account. And I’m really hoping and praying they use at least some of it. But if they don’t I will spend that money on something to make myself feel better :)… Or save it for the next round of PGD testing. It took a lot for me to do that. My online banking session kept timing out while I went back and forth trying to decide. I made the purchase but I’m still undecided, if that makes sense. But it’s done and it’s not the end of the world.

So here we are. 9 am on day 6. My stomach is in knots. I want them to call already. N keeps saying that he has a good feeling about this. I do sometimes but I’m very scared still. Especially today. I made the mistake yesterday of googling stories about embryo drop off rates after day 3. Huge mistake. But I’ve put a self ban on Google now so that’s good.

Okay, I have to get some work done. My next post will have results.

I hope everyone is having a good week so far!

Cycle Buddy Guilt

This are going extremely well this cycle. A little too well. I’m so excited and, at the same time, I’m wrestling my doubt demons. When you’re up so high the fall is going to suck.

Of the 20, 15 were mature and 12 fertilized… 12! and 15 mature?! How is that possible? I’m over the moon. Another baby step win! I’m really trying to stay present in every moment and enjoy this. I think I’m an emotional eater… No, I definitely am. I was so happy I went to buy all the sugar and carbs I could find. All of them.

One thing I’m not enjoying is feeling guilty about the good results. I almost don’t want to post the results on Instagram. I used to hate having cycle buddies. Actually I still kinda don’t like it. Mostly because I was always the “loser”. Most of the women I cycled with are pregnant now and it hurts. And some of them have children and it’s a constant reminder that my baby could have been that age now.

This time, all my cycle buddies aren’t doing as well and I seem to be doing great (I probably just jinxed myself now but whatever, today is great). Now I feel bad. I don’t want others to hurt while I’m not and I especially don’t want to be the cause of anyone’s hurt.

Of course things could turn around for them they are not out of the game yet and I could still end up “losing” but today some of them are disappointed and I feel quite the opposite.

Has anyone experienced cycle buddy guilt? I’m trying to think of a tactful way to share results on Instagram. I mean I could just deactivate the account and not have to deal with it, right?

Anyway, my next call will be on Saturday. Please keep us in your thoughts. This part is so hard.

Carb City

It was a good day and a good retrieval. I only took today off so I’m just napping and resting and filling up on all the carbs I missed out on these past few weeks.

I’ll write more in the morning but everything went well and the pain is minimal. I’m just battling a violent headache. 

They retrieved 20 eggs!  I’m extremely surprised and elated. I know most of them won’t be mature but that’s a great number. I was worried that with that many eggs I would be in a bunch of pain but I’m really doing well. Right now anyway. 

One day at a time. And today was a win. 

Thank you very much everyone for keeping us in your thoughts. Thank you so very much. 

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have to dive into a grilled cheese sandich… Maybe two. 

Coasting

IVF ROUND 5

DAY 10 – Monitoring Day
(Sunday Nov 13)

Meds: 75iu Gonal-f , 75iu Menopur, 1 x Cetrotide 

Estrogen: 4198
LH: 0.7
Progesterone: 1.05
Left Ovary: 18, 16, 16, 16, 15, 15, 13, 12, 11
Right Ovary: 18, 16

 

Well that didn’t go as planned. As you can see not enough growth on the left and something funny with my right so I couldn’t trigger tonight. Maybe Saturday’s tech was overzealous :). And as you can see, my estradiol almost doubled so now they’re dropping my doses down and I’ll likely be doing a Lupron trigger which I’m not excited about.

I don’t know if this is good or bad but the nurse seemed nonplussed. The only thing I don’t like is dropping the dose and the Lupron trigger.

I read about it and I think what they’re doing is called coasting. you drop or stop the hormones if a patient’s estradiol goes over 2500 and the lead follicles are between 15 and 18mm. And you do this for a few days until the estradiol drops to a safer number then trigger. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it as long as you don’t do it for too long.

I just am not a huge fan of the Lupron trigger. It made me really sick last time and while it helps prevent OHSS, I got it in my head that it’s not good for egg quality. But let’s see.

Another bummer of a day. I was looking forward to triggering tonight but I’m okay now. I had a bigger disappointment. We planned to go see a movie and get unlimited shrimp at Outback Steakhouse today. We saw Arrival (pretty good) but stupid Outback was closed for some reason. Stupid Outback!

Anyway, back to clinic tomorrow. Please little follicles grow for mama.

Emotional: More bummed about Outback being closed actually

Physical: The tummy bloat is still there but the bloated feeling is gone. The nausea is back in full swing right now.

Food: Bacon and eggs and guacamole for brunch, Salmon and roasted veg for dinner.

The Little Ovary That Could

IVF ROUND 5

DAY 9 – Monitoring Day
(Saturday Nov 12)

Meds: 300iu Gonal-f , 150iu Menopur, 1 x Cetrotide 

Estrogen: 2544
LH: 1.95
Progesterone: 0.9
Left Ovary: 17, 16, 16, 14, 14, 13, 12, 11
Right Ovary: 18, 17, 9

You would swear this is the first time I’m doing this because I thought we’d be doing retrieval on Friday. All my retrievals have been on a Friday so I had no reason to think otherwise but surprise surprise, I will likely be triggering tomorrow for a retrieval on Tuesday. How did this happen? I just started stims.

I feel slightly unprepared. I need to shave. I should wash my hair. Did I eat well enough? Did I take this cycle seriously enough? I didn’t do any exercise. I didn’t do any meditation. What the heck?

*Breathe* Despite me panicking on the inside, I think this cycle went really well. I’m feeling good, physically, right now. And I’d like to take a moment to congratulate my right ovary. She doesn’t have the numbers but she is certainly the over achiever this round. 3 follicles? Wow. And she’s sporting the lead follicle right now? Damn girl! *slow clap*. I know that little 9mm probably won’t have a mature egg in it but it’s there and it’s trying damn it. I wish they could tell you which ovary made mature eggs. I have to go in tomorrow morning again for probably my last scan. I can’t wait to see how my little 9er on the right is doing.

I don’t know how this cycle is going to go but I am happy with my body today. We did it guys.

Emotional: 10% what if I fall… 90% what if I fly.

Physical: Sharp pains on the left. No dizziness or nausea which is great!

Food: Smoothie (strawberries, banoonoos (see below), coconut milk, 2 eggs) for breakfast, Sonic double cheeseburger without the bun and some tator tots for lunch, Roasted chicken, ceasar salad and some brie cheese for dinner. Halo Top Chocolate ice cream because we deserve it!

PS: I went to visit my friend yesterday and she had this sing along show on Netflix on for her son and I canNOT get this song out of my head. Maybe this is why I’m in a good mood. Here’s hoping you get this one stuck in your head too :).

Just A Quicky

IVF ROUND 5

DAY 8
(Friday Nov 11)

Meds: 300iu Gonal-f , 150iu Menopur, 1 x Cetrotide 

Notes: estrogen=1336; LH=10; progesterone=xx; Left Ovary=12, 11, 11, 11, 11, 9; Right Ovary=13.5, 11.6

Just a quick update. Everything is the same as yesterday. My next monitoring appointment is tomorrow.

Emotional: No complaints. I’m a bit worried about tomorrow’s scan. But only a bit. 

Physical: Symptoms come and go. Even the bloat isn’t very significant anymore. 

Food: Didn’t eat much today. Smoothie (berries, coconut milk, 2 eggs) for breakfast, giant burrito bowl for dinner.